Procrastination Day

'Procrastination Day' is a global event through which people are promoting positive procrastination in a high-paced, hi-tech world where taking one's time is very important. The day was celebrated yesterday.

It is a norm that people are always in a rush to complete their tasks be it at home or at office. It is becoming a cultural norm. According to 'Procrastination Day' we must take out the time to think about stuff more openly so that we don't lose control over our lives.

The founder of this day is David d'Equainville. He says that putting something off has its own virtues. The virtue is procrastinating lies in the fact that mostly people make mistakes while making quick decisions.

Fast communication is putting more stress on humans. Procrastination, therefore, works as a defence mechanism in the normal day so that we can make choices about the things we should do. We must learn to pause the moment to think out the right route.

Pretentious Love

I have heard so much about love and people giving various definitions to it because it is an experience that varies from person to person. It definitely seems to be a beautiful emotion but it is something so rare. Especially the love that people have for each other, if they really do.

Most of the times, they just lie to each other and themselves and don't really realize that actually there is no love between them. I have seen such people. They might have their reasons for living like that. Sometimes, living a lie is more comfortable than the harsh realities that absolutely suck.

I came across many people...countless in fact who intentionally mix things up. In our part of the world, there is this strange wave, that one just has to get married as soon as possible. People, both genders, go mad and absolutely frustrated and angry. They need someone in their life. A spouse so that they meet the norms of the society. When they don't get things done, they take desperate measures. Of ten, love, which is otherwise quite  beautiful is pushed into situations. People push themselves to believe they love someone, whether the person is right for them or if they are right for the other person. But the desire to be like everyone else is so intense, they pretend to be in love. A strange sort of love. A love that only means "I need to get married now or I will go mad" or "I need to settle down cause I can't control my hormones no more". But marriage and love are two different things.

Oh yeah, how can we forget the glorious expression of victory and pride once the goal is achieved. That too, is a sign of people who really, really, really talk a lot about love...their pride is brilliantly visible and flaunted.

Also, this mere desire to actually settle down, move on in life, be like everyone else (since that is considered to be quite normal) sometimes, urges many people to become all green, ugly and vicious. They play games. They pretend nice but their mind is playing a game and actually all they want is to get to their goal. In doing so,  they end  up doing lots of mean shit and hurt or fool many also. 

If love is such a beautiful thing, how can it make people who are so in love so selfish and bitchy? How can people a feeling or desire make people do harmful and spiteful things merely to fit in the norms?

These are just some observations. I have nothing against love. I believe in it. I don't like the way it is abused. Sometimes, I don't even like the fact that some of the most good natured people around don't end up finding true love while many selfish and mean people who actually don't have any patience in them get shit loads of love or attention. If this is all written from before, as I believe, it is, I think it is not so much fun to read.

Nevertheless, inspired by a movie I watched when I was little and the love that Hindi cinema promotes - true and beautiful love and that truth is love, I still feel if anybody is in love with someone somewhere, the best thing is to let the person know, rather than play a mindful game or wait. It just lifts the burden. I would rather take a rejection any day than play a bitchy game against others to attain some fake love to be a part of some pretentious society.

Somethings Are The Way They Are...

Somethings are the way they are and words just can't explain. No matter how hard you try to make everyone understand, no matter how you make the picture clear...but when the person sitting in front of you doesn't want to see the real picture, not much can be done. It's better to let things be the way they are. There is no point banging your head against a wall.

What's interesting is how everyone is wearing the goggles and following each other blindly going to some Practical Valley of success through the roads of lies, games, hypocrisy and fake talk. And those who defy the norms are the mad ones. The blind followers ensure the madness doesn't spread any further. The fear of this lonesome madness is far greater than the fear of the blindness leading them to a shit hole. Or they feel at least they are together.

I just realized when I decided to leave my job how a lot of people indirectly told me what a loser I am. They told me how unhappy I will be. That I have left the best option and growth. I don't know how people can pass their judgement and predict the future without knowing why a decision was made in the first place. But because these people don't mean anything to me I didn't spend a lot of time explaining to them about my reasons.

It wasn't that easy for me either to take the step...I linger on to stuff for long. But then when I felt I wasn't happy I just took the step. Everyone can't take such steps but I was at a point when I felt peace of mind is more important than growth and success. If you don't bring the change then you're stuck and when you're stuck you're not growing from any angle. And what is life without any change. We have to take the risk. You can't play it safe all the time. And then when you are not wearing the goggles and following everyone blindly - perhaps you are the one to take such a step anyway which everyone disapproves of. Nevertheless, since it's your life you gotta make it or break it your way.

And then another thing is that I just feel when you are better than the rest you gotta be told this. But when you see the worshippers of fake shit are getting it all by doing nothing but by virtually blabbing stuff, it makes no sense to me. There should be a difference between work and shit! There should be a difference between being focused and playing games! The right things need to be told to the right people at the right time.

But since certain things are not in your control you gotta let them be. And since we are and should be in absolute control of our life...it's better to do what you think is right with your life and forget what everyone else thinks.

- Zaira Rahman