Showing posts with label british. Show all posts
Showing posts with label british. Show all posts

How sexy stereotypes measure up

The French, of all people, seem to be having troubles in the bedroom.

According to a recent survey (conducted by the makers of the erection-enhancing drug Levitra, so grain of salt and all that) 76 percent of the French sometimes suffer from lack of sexual response. We may think of the French, with their cafes and all those weeks of vacation, as being less-frazzled than the rest of us, but they aren’t, necessarily — and it’s dinging their reputation as lovers.

But was that reputation ever justified? Do the British deserve their image as cold, if polite, fish in the bedroom? Are Latin lovers really more passionate? And are Americans boringly vanilla lovers?

But it turns out the stereotypes we all know and love, like the “French lover” and "the icy Brit," were mostly created by literature.

The modern idea of an international publishing industry started around the mid-1660s and, as books spread, so did stereotypes, explained Pamela Cheek a professor of languages at the University of New Mexico and author of “Sexual Antipodes: Enlightenment Globalization and the Placing of Sex.”

Books became an important, if often infrequently acknowledged, part of the Enlightenment revolution, the same revolution that inspired America’s founding fathers.

Partly because of such “dirty books,” and partly due to French PR, France got the reputation of being sexually free.

Not to be outdone, the British began publishing their own explicit books like “Memoirs of a Woman of Pleasure,” more popularly known as Fanny Hill, in 1748. It did wonders for creating the stereotype of British men as conflicted spanking fetishists.

Likewise, the fact that Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, the writer of the sado-maschochistic novel “Venus in Furs” (and the man who gave his name to masochism) was an Austrian, helped propel the idea that Germanic men liked disciplinary Helgas.

One theory had it that warm climates fostered passionate appetites, while cold climates led to more reserved sexual lives.

Porn sites, adult movies, and sex tourism industries all play up the idea of national, racial, ethnic difference. “We have become very adept at using media to feed our sexual practices and notions of stereotypes,” Cheek said.

The reality, of course, is much more mundane. A survey sponsored by Pfizer (maker of Viagra, naturally) showed that similar percentages of people all over the world thought sex was “important” to leading a fulfilling life.

Similar percentages of “hot blooded” Spanish men and women, and “puritanical” U.S. men and women reported being sexually satisfied. (Mexicans reported the highest percentage of countries surveyed; 78 percent of men and 71 percent of women said they were very satisfied.) In general, people in poorer countries say they are more sexually satisfied than people in richer countries, which probably tells us more about the expectations of consumer cultures than it does bed skills.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/40955746/ns/health-sexual_health/?ocid=twitter

Kandahar Break


Kandahar Break is an independent British film written and directed by David Whitney and was released in 2009. Though I have seen many movies set in Afghanistan and Kabul and about the atrocities being done there by the lost people. This movie has a very simple plot and highlights more or less the same things that we have read and known for years now. 

My inspiration to write it was to see this model whom I first saw at a silly fashion show organized by students from SZABIST and one of my friends was the organizer and we went there to support him. This girl seemed confident and resembled Parveen Bobby. I remember my sister and I said this girl seems bold and will go ahead. Later on I saw her on ramp. It was Tatmaeen. She had made progress quickly. I mean imagine all those Pakistani models and actresses who claim all the time they wouldn't work in an Indian movie or that they have too many offers and blah blah. And there Tatmaeen has already worked in an international project. And she did act pretty decent...I set my benchmark a bit low and that is Vaneeza's acting in Jinnah. So, yes Tatmaeen looked fine and acted well. She did quite a few kissing scenes also, so I am not too sure if she is still in Pakistan, has there been any fatwa passed against her or whatever the scenario is here.




The story is about this British engineer who had come to destroy land mines. This was pre the 9-11 era but Taliban rules were functional in Afghanistan. And this engineer fell for this girl Jameela (Tatmaeen) who was an interpreter and had lived in US for many years but had returned to her country afterwards as that's what her father had wanted ...to live in their own land. Unfortunately,  because this engineer Richard and Jameela fell in love and were seen together intimately, the girl was taken to be stoned to death. The guy did interfere but the girl died and he was in trouble because now the Talibans were after him. So, the rest of the movie was about how he made his way out through Pakistan. Along the way, he also met some Balochi tribesmen who helped him because they considered Talibans to be the real enemies of peace. But sadly, as soon as he crossed the border he was shot dead. Later on in 2002, Nato took over and drove the Talibans out.


The story was quite simple and I am sure in reality even worse things happened in Afghanistan. I have read many stories about women trapped in such places and it is very sad to see how entire lives are ruined. The movie had some other Pakistani tv actors too who acted well. 

Cajun Music


This week, thanks to Jean I also got to know about cajun music. Cajun music is also known to be originating from Louisiana. The history, is like this that a long time ago, the British wanted the French people to stand up in war against there own country - France. And of course, some people didn't want to do so. They then left their country and moved and moved and moved and came to live in Louisana. And played cajun music. Most cajun music is in French. Though many people wanted them to not sing in French so some of the songs can be in English as well.

I didn't like the 1st youtube video. It had the haunting voice of this woman. Hated it completely. But I liked the Balfa Brothers. Their music was full of life. Quite good. Then I even heard some great music by Hadley Castille. He is known to be one of the very popular cajun music players who has inspired many young musicians. I am posting some of his stuff as well. And then there was some cool music by this couple Dennis and Jennifer. They play good cajun music too. Now cajun music is becoming popular around the world.







But in the end, I will share a sad poem Evangeline. It is about how sad it was when people had to leave their country and move to another country after so much of misery, pain and destruction. How many people lost their loved ones. How the love of their lives disappeared before their own eyes. This poem is about a Gabrielle and Evangeline, who were in love and about to get married, but the British came and burnt the church and everything was distorted. They were separated. For twenty years, Evangeline looked for the love of her life. However, she suffered but still kept hope alive. She still nurtured the goodness in her and helped others in suffering around her. And it so happened that just before Gabrielle died, he and Evangeline did meet once. Sad but does move one's heart.

I hope somebody else, who was not into this cajun word at all, might like this stuff as well just like it did move me. I have shared some of the best music here. Here is Evangeline for you.