Mother Kills Her New Born Child

Every sane woman dreams of having her own child. Most women look forward to the time when they will hold their child in their hands for the first time. In fact, many mothers claim it is the most divine feeling in the whole world. But, these sentiments are of course not shared by every mother.

In Islamabad, a newborn baby boy was strangled by his own mother and grandmother at PIMS yesterday. Both the women were arrested as the hospital warden registered a case against them. The interrogation revealed that mother of the child got married to a relative of hers after she got pregnant with another man. She admitted that she was having an extra marital affair with another one of her relatives who is a 35 year old man. She had to hide her pregnancy and so quickly married another man.

Surprisingly, just after three months of marriage the girl had to be taken to the hospital on Wednesday when she had labor pain and she ended up giving birth to an otherwise very healthy baby boy of 2 kg. The grandmother of the child said that the baby was the result of an illicit relationship and so they decided to finish him off. The grandmother took the child in her lap and strangled him as told by the mother.

I am amazed at the man who even married the pregnant woman without ever thinking she was expecting and not only that - what was he thinking when he took her to the hospital to deliver a baby just 3 months after the marriage? Did he even have a brain or not? And these women sound disgusting. These women don't only disrespect motherhood but also demean the very existence of woman kind itself.

A story that surely makes you think

Yesterday I read about this 107 year old Malaysian woman who is looking for 23rd husband & her husband number 22 is 70 years younger than her. She fears that her current husband might leave her for another young woman. She even made headlines when 4 years ago, she got married for the 22nd time. This story may seem hilarious but I admire her guts. When you are old, you feel more lonely & I guess everyone needs a partner; age doesn’t really matter.

I have seen that if a woman gets married even the 2nd time, it’s taken very badly. In fact, if a woman settles down with a married man, that is regarded to be some heinous act. When we hear of some woman who has been married 3 times, everyone thinks she’s promiscuous or something. I once read about a character & I did mention her in one of my writings…she used to have sex with anyone she liked & she was married. And she too was considered a slut by many in the book.

Then I couldn’t help thinking of the movie ’Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna.’ I liked the movie. It’s possible that you are being married to the nicest guy & yet you’re not happy. Having an extra-marital affair is something so not acceptable…although it happens. It’s just that people don’t like the idea of a married person having a good time with someone else (other than his/her spouse). And then there are terrible marriages & I don’t think people have the right to judge those people who are having a bit of a nice time. In fact people don’t have the right to judge anyone.

I have always been a very open person. I remember when I was a teenager I said to my friends that I do think about my 1st love all night long. And they were put in a state of shock. As if they didn’t fantasize anyone. In fact, there are times when you think about kissing a person or even having sex with whom you’re only being attracted towards & as such you don’t feel much about that person. You know people get tempted; some get serious, some don’t - & that could be regarded as a tragedy as well :P

Before I forget, some people bothered my kid sister with stupid questions about cyber sex & all that kind of cyber shit. I am the one who writes about sex, not my sister, so just don’t bother her. It doesn’t mean you should send stupid queries to me. I don’t know why people presume all sorts of things about females who write about such stuff. If you can think about something, then I don’t see the harm of saying it. Since people love to pretend & lie to themselves, they wouldn’t get what I’m saying. And the thing is…you don’t kiss every person you talk to. Alright.

I don’t know about others but one of the reasons why I’m not married is that I do believe in marriage. My parents didn’t have a great relationship. I’m the 4th child of my parents & Zara, Umar & I were too young when Papa passed away. I once suggested the idea of my mother getting married again & my elder sister gave me a piece of her mind. She said that you can get married when your husband dies & this is so desperate & no one can approve of such a crazy idea. On a couple of occasions, I did mention this to some of my really out friends & they too were like…oh Nadira, have you gone off your head? ; she doesn’t have to get married. I have discussed this thing with my mom as well & she said that I’m mad to even think of such absurd things.

I seriously don’t think that what I suggested was something crazy or foolish. People have created boundaries around themselves. And they also don’t want others to step out of those stupid man-made rules. They want everyone to follow the same rotten road. They want everyone to have the same pattern of life. And I don’t understand why. In fact I don’t want to understand it. It seems people like the idea of seeing living corpses around them.

Anyway I say…do nothing but at least enjoy life.